Random Advice to Make Your Day Better


There are little things one can do that will make their day that much better, trust me. One of these things is bonding with whoever makes your coffee/tea/latte or whatever poison you choose in the morning. Try talking to the girl at Dunkin Donuts or the Barista (?) at Starbucks. It makes their day better, too. I used to be one of those girls making people's coffee. A little bit of laughter with a stranger in the morning after a night of writing a paper or having a fight with a significant other is sometimes, exactly what you need.

Struggle


Everyone around me (including myself) appears to be struggling with some external problem. The key word here is appear. It seems to me, that everyone is struggling with an inner demon, that they can't completely let out, thus, they can't solve their problem, and then, they blame their issue on something external that they don't think they have control over. Yes I'm being a hypocrite right now, but hey I'm trying to change too.

I don't like watching everyone fall apart. And also, I promise that this will be the only semi-emotional diary like entry I will ever post, next time I'll e-mail Oprah or something. Anyway, this goes along with the whole idea of reaching out to people. Just talk to someone, anyone. Stop a man on the street, maybe you'll change his life, who knows. It's just so important to deal with whatever problem you're having head on, while you still have control.

If you're like me, you probaby don't want a bunch of people helping you out of whatever hole you've fallen into. Completely understandable. Struggle with someone, don't just help them. When people work together (I know, I sound like some kind of hippy liberal and I'm sorry), it makes everyone stronger. You can't always be someone's savior, you might need to let someone help you sometimes too. That's what makes a relationship real, rather than just a dependency.

Wisdom...Probably Not


Well, if you wanted wisdom, I apologize, because you have come to the wrong place. However, I can offer ideas. I had a professor at SCCC who would constantly laugh at all his students because we are all living in such a mess, and he would outwardly state this, the sadistic bastard. However, one day, as he was going off on such a rant, he explained that life is just a constant of different cycles; you're up, you're down, you're rich, you're poor, you're rational, you're rash, and so on. I realize that although he was mildly a lunatic, he was right about this.

One minute, I think I have everything figured out, and the next, I realize I'm just as lost as the next person. Just when I think I took one step foward, I have to take two (or, three, or seven..) back. And that's okay, because that's how it is supposed to be. If this applies to you as well, relax, at least you're going to learn something when you take the two steps back, and even if you were moving forward, you probably didn't know where you were going anyway, so what's the rush?

There is always going to be the one person you idolize, because you think that they have everything that you want, including sanity. Many would be surprised, that that one God-like person, is just as screwed up as you are, they just do a better job of hiding it. I guess the only solution I can offer is reaching out. Learn more about people you think have everything figured out, because well, two things could happen. Either, you'll learn their secret, shake your fist at the sky and curse, or, more likely, you'll realize, they really don't have everything figured out, and you can learn from them, and they can probably learn from you too. We can't be so afraid of eachother, because at the end of the day, that's all we have, so what's stopping you from using it?

Shades of the City, Shards of the Country


I visited NYU, I fell in love, period. It's amazing how this huge, amazing world, is just a mere 4 hours away from my current location, and pretty soon, I'm going to be a lifetime away from this, and I can't wait. (Okay, the diary portion of this is over).

The small town mentality around here is rampant (which, if this is all one knows, it's understandable). However, I would advise everyone to atleast break out of that mentality for just one day and visit NYC, and if you don't like it, that's perfectly fine, but I just think it's important to just get out there and see what else is going on, even if it isn't for you.

Everyone always says how it is "so hard to make it" down there. First off, I don't know what "making it means". It's easy to navigate, even the Subway (Common sense is not a characteristic I list on the MySpace section 'About Me', and even I could do it). Yea, it's a big city, and this, is a small town. There are alot of people down there, and alot of people say its harder with such an enormous population. While I can see where they're coming from, I tend to disagree. With that many people, you don't have to prove anything, you can be who you are or who you want to be, and no one looks at you twice. In a small town, I think it's harder to "make it", because there's more pressure to be who everyone wants you to be, more focus is on the individual because the popluation is smaller. I don't want to prove anything, I don't want anyone looking at me twice, I just want to go to school and enjoy the city for what it is, save for the Yankees, of course.