The Truth About Lies


Everyone has lied at one point or another in their lives. Whether it's about your weight, at the workplace, or your age (I'm guilty of all three), you've done it. We know it's wrong, but we do it. So, I have to ask, why?

I think there's many reasons why we all lie. First off, let's be honest (yes in a post about lying), it's fun! Even if, for the most part, you feel guilty (which you should), there is a small part of you that is like "Yeah, I'm a bad ass because I pulled that off". Which is a wonderful feeling until you get caught a few times, then you're a bad ass with no friends.

Second, it's because we don't care about the people we lie to. You don't care so much about their feelings - so who cares if you get caught?

This is the portion where I must introduce the different types of lies. There are white lies you tell. These are minor, insignificant, and/or exaggerations. Either way, if the truth was found out, it probably wouldn't be detrimental to the person, rather, irritating. Then there are lies about situations - what you did a certain night; maybe you went out with your boyfriend rather than your friends and you lied, or vice versa. These are a step above white lies because they tend to be a bit more hurtful. Then, there are lies about feelings. These are lies that are fair game to hurt everyone and anyone involved. These are the ones that ruin relationships. Society generally frowns upon these kinds of liars. However, I digress.*

Third, it's because we DO care about the people we lie to. Think about it, who are the people we most frequently lie to? Yes, this is America, and that question is applicable. Your friends, your significant other, and of course, your parents. These are the most important people in our lives, and we lie to them. How ironic. So what do we do with that?

Society hates liars, but we're all frauds. Where do we start to fix this problem? The obvious answer is honesty, but we all know it's more complex than that. For this one, I really don't have the answer or anything thought provoking. If anyone has any insight, feedback is welcomed and encouraged.

*Lies are not limited to those described

The hell with the movie, this is Love, Actually.
-Inspired by my long lost best friend, Filly :-)


So as previously mentioned - it's getting to be winter time, it's cold, and you want someone other than your cat to cuddle up with. Everyone is drunk off holiday spirit (or spirits), which makes the idea of a relationship that much lovlier. However, before jumping on that bandwagon (I swear I'm not a miserable old hag - yet), perhaps there are some things you should consider...

I love the classic "So what do you look for in a guy?" first date question. That's the equivalent of telling a sleezy car dealer what you're looking for in a vehicle - and mysteriously - he has exactly what you're looking for. Once you answer that question - the shmuck you're trying to date is going to try to be X, Y, and Z. And girls (sadly, I've done it too) are just as guilty.

So many of us love to be in love. I am all for love, please don't take me for a cynical old wench (like I said, yet). But let's face it, you can't go out looking for X, Y, and Z. You can certainly have it in mind, and consider it, but sometimes, you have to let the dating rubrick go. Moreover, considering looking for someone to have a good time with might not be a bad idea, maybe after you realize how much fun you have with them, they will become X, Y, and Z. The quest for love is a tough one, and often unsucessful. Sometimes, you just have to let that idea go, and let that certain someone walk through your door. Just remember to leave it unlocked, and all that that implies.

It's Getting to be that Time of Year...

Christmas Time is Here! Atleast according to every department store, right after Halloween, out comes Old Saint Nicholas. I just don't get it. What happened to Thanksgiving? I don't want to think about Christmas until Black Friday. And Christmas music, radio stations are already playing it. Granted, although most of you probably can't stomach Hanson/Mariah Carey Christmas music, I happen to fancy it. But not this early.
I think you have to learn to appreciate the build up to Christmas Day. This seriously is the best time of year. It's getting kind of cold, you have an excuse to bundle up and cuddle with that someone special (in my case, my cat, just kidding - sort of), everyone is in a good mood because it is the holidays and theres alot of pie. You're around your friends and family, which can either be great or a disaster, but regardless, you usually have a good story come out of it.
This season is just cool because its getting to be the end of another year (not to mention semester) - you got through it - you're with people you care about and you're having a good time. Seriously, theres not much else I could ask for. Have I mentioned the pie?